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You keep meeting
the right people in the wrong ways.
LOVE COACHING · SINGLES
That's not a coincidence, and it's not bad luck. It's a pattern, and patterns have roots. Once you understand yours, everything changes. Not the people you meet. The way you show up when you meet them.
WHO THIS IS FOR
You know yourself
reasonably well. And still.
You've ended a relationship, or several, and noticed that the core issue was quietly the same as the one before.
You find yourself either pursuing people who aren't fully available, or backing away from ones who actually are.
You can articulate your patterns with clarity but still can't seem to step out of them when it counts.
You're tired of being told to "just put yourself out there" by people who don't understand what's actually going on.
You're tired of being told to "just put yourself out there" by people who don't understand what's actually going on.
The people I work with aren't starting from zero. They've done the reading. They've probably had therapy. They're self-aware, emotionally intelligent, and genuinely trying. And they keep ending up in the same place.
That's not a failure of effort. That's a sign that insight alone or understanding what you do, isn't quite enough to change the deeply held patterns that drive how you love. That's a different layer of work. And it's the one we do together.
"You didn't block love. You learned to protect yourself. Those aren't the same thing."
Not what's wrong with you.
What happened to you.
WHAT WE WORK ON
We work at the level of the pattern, not the behavior. Understanding where your way of loving comes from, and what it was originally protecting, is what makes lasting change possible.
01
YOUR LOVE BLUEPRINT
Where did you learn to love the way you do? We trace your relational patterns back to their roots, not to blame anyone, but to understand the logic underneath them.
02
PROTECTIVE MECHANISMS
The walls, the withdrawal, the over-giving, the testing, these were smart adaptations once. Together we examine which ones are still serving you and which are getting in the way.
03
NERVOUS SYSTEM & ATTACHMENT
Understanding how your nervous system responds to intimacy, what triggers it, what soothes it, is often the missing piece that makes everything else fall into place.
04
SELF-CARE & SELF-WORTH
How you relate to yourself is the foundation of how you relate to others. We work on the relationship you have with yourself, without toxic positivity or empty affirmations.
05
COMMUNICATION & BOUNDARIES
Expressing what you need without apologising for it. Setting limits without guilt. These are learnable skills, not personality traits you either have or don't.
06
DATING WITH INTENTION
Practical support for navigating modern dating in a way that feels grounded and honest, not performative. What to look for, what to trust, how to stay connected to yourself.
HOW IT WORKS
Practical, personalized, no scripts.
Sessions are one-on-one, 50 minutes, conducted online via video call. We work at whatever pace suits you, some people prefer weekly sessions, others every two weeks. There's no rigid program. The work shapes itself around you.
I work in English and Dutch, with clients across Europe and the US. Time zones are rarely a problem, I keep flexible hours across both LA and Amsterdam.
We start with a free 20-minute intake conversation. No obligation, no pitch. Just an honest look at where you are, what you're working with, and whether working together makes sense.
INVESTMENT
INDIVIDUAL SESSIONS
RECOMMENDED
Pay As You Go
$190
Per 50-minute session
$740
Four prepaid 50-minute sessions
✔️ 50-minute sessions
✔️ Valid for 3 months
✔️ Personalized advice and exercises
12-week Package
$2,180
Twelve 50-minute sessions package
✔️ Twelve 50-minute sessions
✔️ Valid for 3 months
✔️ Personalized advice and exercises
✔️ Unlimited e-mail support between session
All prices exclude VAT where applicable. Package sessions are valid for 3 months. Sliding scale available in exceptional circumstances, reach out and we'll talk.
QUESTIONS
Things people usually
ask before they reach out.
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Therapy typically emphasizes gaining insight and understanding, while coaching focuses on behavioral change. A therapist guides you to explore the origins of certain patterns in your life, whereas a coach assists you in breaking free from them. My approach is a blend of both: therapeutically based coaching. It’s essential to reflect on your past and understand how you’ve become who you are. However, it’s equally important to learn how to implement these insights in practical ways. Together, we will pursue both avenues, always aiming for genuine and lasting transformation in your life.
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No. Some people come to me actively dating and frustrated. Others have been single for a while and want to understand why. Others have just ended something and need to make sense of it before they move on. Where you are right now is the right starting point.
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Honestly, most people notice a shift in perspective within the first two or three sessions. Behavioral change takes longer. A 12-session package is usually a great start to make meaningful, lasting progress. This isn't a quick fix, but it's also not open-ended.
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Absolutely. I work online with clients across Europe, the US, and beyond. All sessions are available in English or Dutch.
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Unfortunately, coaching is generally not automatically reimbursed by insurance companies. Most insurers will only cover psychological assistance if a specific diagnosis is present. This often results in a prescribed treatment plan with a limited number of sessions, creating a bureaucratic process that hinders the customization essential for effective mental healthcare. Consequently, this system often leads to addressing symptoms rather than the underlying issues.
Many clients find themselves trapped in this framework and begin seeking a more holistic approach. Some insurers do offer coaching as part of an additional package, so it’s worthwhile to inquire if this option is available for you. Additionally, it’s helpful to know that as a private individual, you might be able to deduct coaching expenses as healthcare costs on your taxes, while entrepreneurs can sometimes categorize them as learning costs. Consult with your accountant to see what your options are.
Start with a free conversation.
20 minutes. No pressure. Just an honest talk to find out if we're a good fit, and whether this kind of work could be useful for where you are right now.
Based in Los Angeles & Amsterdam Online coaching available worldwide
Other ways
we can work together.
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01
Relationship Coaching for Couples
For couples who love each other but can’t seem to find their way back.
02
Life Coaching
For when the relationship that needs work is the one with yourself.
03
Wellness retreats
Immersive, in-person, in community, for people who want to go deeper.