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Couples don't fall out of love.They fall out of understanding.
RELATIONSHIP COACHING · COUPLES
The love is still there. That's usually not what brings people to me. It's the distance that crept in, the argument that keeps mutating, the feeling of being on opposite sides of something invisible. That's reversible, but only if you're able to see what's actually happening and work on communicating differently. I will help you do both.
You haven't
given up. And you don’t want to.
WHO THIS IS FOR
You keep having the same argument. The topic changes; the dynamic doesn't.
You've drifted, less closeness, less intimacy, less of the feeling that you're actually a team.
One or both of you has started to wonder if this is just how it is now.
You've been through something, a breach of trust, a loss, a major life change, and haven't fully found each other on the other side.
You love each other but have stopped feeling like you genuinely understand each other.
The couples I work with aren't at rock bottom, or if they are, they at least found common ground to both be here. They're people who genuinely love each other and are baffled by how hard it has become to actually feel it.
Sometimes it's a specific crisis. More often it's a slow drift, a growing distance, a pattern of conflict that never quite resolves, a feeling of being known less and less by the person who is supposed to know you best.
Both are workable. What matters is that you're both here.
"The goal isn't to stop arguing. It's to understand what you're actually arguing about."
WHAT WE WORK ON
Couples coaching with me is not about figuring out who’s wrong and who’s right. It’s not about reaching a compromise either. It's helping both of you understand the dynamic you're caught in, and building a new one that works better for both of you.
Both of you.
Together.
Honestly.
01
THE PATTER BENEATH THE PATTERN
Most recurring conflicts aren't about what they appear to be about. We find the real dynamic, the one underneath the topic, and work with that.
02
COMMUNICATION THAT LANDS
We will actively practice Real Communication: saying what you mean in a way that the other person can actually hear, and hearing what they mean without needing to defend.
03
ATTACHMENT & NERVOUS SYSTEM
When one of you pursues and the other withdraws, or when conflict spirals faster than either of you intended, this is nervous system territory. Understanding it changes everything.
04
REBUILDING TRUST & CLOSENESS
Whether trust was broken in a specific moment or simply eroded over time, we work on what it takes to rebuild it. Incrementally, honestly, without skipping steps.
05
INDIVIDUAL HISTORIES, SHARED LIFE
Both of you came from somewhere. Both of you brought patterns into this relationship. Understanding each other's history is one of the most useful things a couple can do.
06
INTIMACY & CONNECTION
Emotional intimacy, physical closeness, the sense of being truly known these tend to fade together and need to be rebuilt together. We address all of it.
HOW IT WORKS
All of it on the table.
Both of you in the room
Sessions are 60 minutes for couples, slightly longer than individual sessions because the dynamic between two people simply takes more time to work with properly. We meet online via video call, both of you together.
In some cases I'll suggest individual sessions alongside the couples work. This isn't about finding out what one person is "really" saying. It's about giving each of you space to work on your own part of the pattern.
INVESTMENT
INDIVIDUAL SESSIONS
Pay As You Go
$200
Per 60-minute session
✔️ 60-minute sessions
✔️ Valid for 3 months
✔️ Personalized advice and exercises
RECOMMENDED
6-week Package
$1,150
Six 60-minute sessions package
✔️ Six 60-minute sessions
✔️ Valid for 3 months
✔️ Personalized advice and exercises
✔️ Unlimited e-mail support between session
All prices exclude VAT where applicable. Package sessions are valid for 3 months. Sliding scale available in exceptional circumstances, reach out and we'll talk.
Things couples
usually ask first.
QUESTIONS
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That's more common than you might think. You don't both need to be equally enthusiastic, you both need to be willing to try. One person's reluctance is often just unexpressed fear of what might come up. We work with that honestly from the start.
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Similar but not identical. Therapy tends to go deeper into individual psychological history and trauma. Coaching is more present and forward-focused. We work on what's happening now, what patterns are running, and how to build something better. I use psychological frameworks, but I'm a coach, not a therapist.
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That's a real and honest place to be. Sometimes the work clarifies that you do want to rebuild. Sometimes it clarifies that you don't. Both are legitimate outcomes. My job isn't to keep you together. It’s to help you both understand what you're actually dealing with so you can make a clear decision.
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Absolutely and without reservation. Although some particular issues are certainly unique to each gender or orientation, the patterns and dynamics I work with are not and apply to us all. Love is love.
The first conversation is for both of you
20 minutes. No commitment. Come together if you can, it's useful to be in the room with both of you from the start.
Based in Los Angeles & Amsterdam Online coaching available worldwide
Other ways we can work together.
ALSO AVAILABLE
01
Love Coaching for Singles
For people ready to stop performing relationships and start inhabiting them.
02
Life Coaching
For when the relationship that needs work is the one with yourself.
03
Wellness retreats
Immersive, in-person, in community, for people who want to go deeper.